Taciturn and I called his step father, the Angry White Man, this am to wish him a happy 75th birthday. After talking to T for a while, he tried to get off of the phone without speaking to me but T kind of forced him to say hi. Of course, after the pleasantries he said: "(Incredibly racist joke about our new President elect)"
AWM: "What's wrong, didn't you get it?"
Me: "Oh. I. got. it. all. right."
AWM: "Well, I have to run off. Here's Reet (T's mom)!"
One of these days when it is not his birthday I should just tell him I'm offended. But then I'd have to face Taciturn, who willingly participates in the charade.
I've told T I do not want to go to Baltimore for the holidays. He is very unhappy. He thinks it is a phase I'm going through, and that I will get over it. When I told him that I absolutely was terrified during our last visit, he just poo-pooed my concerns. I told him I will not be someone's verbal punching bag. Anyway, I expect to be strong armed most of the rest of the time between now and that visit.
What I have noticed is the last time T spoke with his mom, he was starting to set up a scenario in which I would have to stay in MO for the holidays and help my folks due to my mom's ill health and my teenage niece's new baby, who is due in a couple of weeks. Everyone will know the real reason I am not going to Baltimore. This just will be the elephant in the room becoming larger.